Realizing that the prevalence of alcohol exposure to the unborn is much higher than most parents and professionals realize is important. It helps us as parents and professionals to understand what the problem is so that we don’t blame the person but instead help find solutions. For the person who has it, it can help them to realize why they have struggled the way they have.
Once we get beyond blaming and shaming we can start looking for solutions to the many challenges cause by fetal alcohol. As I told a young adult the other day, “I’m sorry that you have trouble keeping a job. You are a hard worker. The problem is your fetal alcohol. The good news is that as you get older this may well change. It would be really good if we could find the right type of job for you now.”